Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS
Absolutely true, read it and don’t be just a ‘nice guy’
Doesn’t apply to me but I can see that in a lot of self-proclaimed nice guys. I’ve never had much of an issue with insecurity but I do put my woman first if I’m in a relationship as long as it doesn’t cause conflicts with me as a man. I’ve always been that way though.
Good read and so many accurate statements as far as my life is concerned. in particular these paragraphs.
“The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue… But love isn’t mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of it all is: “Who would want to go out with someone who was inherintly unlovable anyways?””
“More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy NEEDS her. “She is my Life, my only source of happiness…” YECH! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That SHE has to be responsible for YOUR happiness?”
“You don’t have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. “
I wouldn’t call them “Losers” but I definitely get the complaint about many self proclaimed “Nice Guys”.